Paano Ba 'To: Tanong Nila, "Kailan Ka Ikakasal?" At "Kailan Ka Magkaka-Anak?"
Do you dread family reunions because you're going to get asked any of the following (and their permutations):
"Bakit single ka pa?" / "Bakit ba wala ka pang boyfriend/girlfriend?"
"Kailan ka ikakasal?" / "Di ka pa ba engaged?"
"Kailak ka magkaka anak?"
My friend Bianca asked me to share my experiences and advice in this episode of her online show Paano Ba 'To. I didn't get to share that in one family event, my lola's friend also told me, "Wag ka masyadong ambitious. Ayaw ng lalaki sa ganyan." WTF. If he feels that way, he's not for you. Yun lang yon.
It wasn't until last year, towards the end of my 29th year, that I stopped being annoyed. This line of questioning has been called "Filipino culture," but cultures evolve, and we need to elevate the quality of the conversations. I love B's bit at the end where she suggests re-framing the question.
Happy Women's Month!